Updated: Jun 11, 2019
I strongly believe that the most valuable life lessons come from our own struggles, however sometimes it takes us a long time to realise what those lessons are. When we can't quite see that lesson, self help books are a great helping hand. These types of books often make you question and consider things you may have never thought of, and as a result, they can help you to become the best version of you!
Are you struggling with anxiety or depression?
Do you have a difficult relationship that you want to fix?
Are you finding it hard to choose a career path, or wanting to change something?
Try reading at least one of these books. Guaranteed you'll take away at least one thing that will help you with these struggles.
I can't express how much books based around Self-Development have helped me, so I thought I'd put together a list of my top 5 favourite reads.
Number 1: 'A Mindfulness Guide For The Frazzled' by Ruby Wax
This one goes first because it was THE book that literally made me turn my life around. I had heard about 'Mindfulness' before but had never understood it until I read this book. For those who don't know, Mindfulness is a technique which involves actually paying attention to your thoughts and how we feel in a particular moment. By doing this, we separate ourselves from the autopilot negative thinking, which allows the negative thoughts to lose their power. One of my favourite quotes that triggered an 'epiphany' within me was:
“If your thoughts are who you are, how would you be able to stand back and observe them?”
Ruby is the definition of 'weird and wonderful', and her simple yet extremely scientific explanation of how our brains work and why so many of us suffer with mental health problems is something I would recommend to everyone. This book LITERALLY got me out of my huge state of depression.
Number 2: 'The Secret' by Rhonda Byrne
This is a much more well-known book that has sparked a lot of conversation. It's all about the 'Law of Attraction' and how our thoughts control pretty much everything. Some argue that it's a load of BS, which to an extent I can understand, but for those of you more open to the idea of a positive mind resulting in a positive life, read this. It's a perfect beginners guide to the Law of Attraction, and the more you read over it, the more you will learn.
Number 3: 'Be Yourself: How To Relax and Take Control Of Your Life' by Lynda Field
This is a jam-packed guide full of information on how to reduce any form of negativity in your life. Throughout the book, Lynda covers topics from self-esteem to meditation to falling in and out of love. I found everything in this book relatable, and the exercises in every chapter allow you to implement Lynda's advice to your exact situation. I can't emphasise how much advice there is in this book, but one great piece that helped me was:
"Discover what really drives you from within and then match it with real-world activities to give your life new purpose and meaning."
Number 4: 'If I Could Tell You Just One Thing' by Richard Reed
This brilliant book compiles all of Richard's encounters with celebrities, entrepreneurs, politicians, athletes, religious leaders, you name it. From this book you'll discover the best pieces of advice from over 60 of the world's most fascinating individuals, some of which include:
and even Ruby Wax! (See book Number 1)
One of my favourite quotes was some advice given by Bear Grylls. He said:
"The people who are successful are just the ordinary ones that go that little bit further, who give a little more than they are asked to."
Number 5: 'The Untethered Soul' by Michael A. Singer
The position of this book on this list has been chosen very carefully. After reading this book, my outlook on life changed drastically, so I want you to leave this page with this book in mind. However, it's also placed last because it is a much heavier read than the rest of the other books I've mentioned. It's based a lot more around spirituality and becoming your true 'Higher Self', and there's a LOT to take in. For me, this book uncovered a whole new world of how to take control of how you feel, however it took me a long time to get my head around it. Here's a quote:
"The alternative is to enjoy life instead of clinging to it or pushing it away. If you are willing to experience the gift of life instead of fighting with it, you will be moved to the depth of your being."
If there are any particular self-development books that have impacted your life, I'd love to hear about them, so leave a comment!